Discussion of dates.

Photo Courtesy of Mark Parisi

The MOST vital issue is your wedding date! because everything revolves around it from venue, make up artist, photographers, videographers, pelamin, catering, tents etc. etc.

Discussion should also be made among your family and the other half family with acceptance to some close relative and never ever take account what distant relatives or friends views because what i understand and heard from past brides, accounting to people needs = you can never have your wedding because there will be hundreds or possible thousands of reasons for e.g. your relative neighbor son's is getting married sometime next year.. then there's "i'll be very busy at that month because its the peak hour at work" and loads of other reasons. That made you postponed and more like accounting to their needs but not them accounting to your needs. Besides, it's your wedding. 

Sure i took account of my best friend's and friends wedding date to avoid any clashes of guest. Another thing is relatives who are like my first cousin who plan on getting married but, since we're only left two who is still single waiting to be hitch that is not a big issue to discuss. Holidays, will people be available by then? exam season? o levels? a levels? summer holiday? minor stuff that yes, can actually give a huge impact. For example, your cash flow. Say, you were saving for 18 months and on a tight budget, the next thing you know, your wedding is being fast forward 3 months early, Every month your saving is like around $2000... with that just 3 months i.e $6000 you could pay off your rent at the wedding boutique or your photographer. See the huge difference?

Anyhow, enough ranting. Alhamdulillah that my family and the other half family have discuss on our wedding date. We were asked to list out three options that we both preferred and comfortable with. My brother and sister in law being my advisor to maintain the date with reference to the available cash by then because I'm avoiding personal loans. The other half family understands and taking into account festive season, the starting of semesters in UK this and that. Fist option was middle of october towards the end october. Second was the 1st week of november. Third option was end november towards early december. We scrap off the second option because Hari Raya Aidiladha falls on probably the 6th November or 7th November. Risky i suppose. Then the third option is a little too far and very close to my best-friend's wedding, entrance for masters in UK is also past due by then. So we go along the first option! A balance! from rough discussion to have it on early november is being forwarded to end of october. No objection from both sides of the family and cash flow is safe!

So... InsyAllah.. badan sihat murah rezeki... OCTOBER 2011 it is... 

You know at one point, this wedding thing is all about the money!! No money = no talk with vendors = no business with venues = no talk with photographers etc. banar inda? 

I hope and i wish that there will be no amendment of dates. We tried our best to avoid that 11.11.11 date because we know everyone is going for that~ we sacrifice not having a beautiful date for our wedding~ just as long as we're married and both of us is happy. That's all that matters the most. 

One of the reasons why I hope and wish there are no changes is simply because..

I've booked the venue+catering for my reception.. Alhamdulillah they still have slot for october. Deposit to be made next month and by then, i have a promised venue and catering. 

I'll start on the MUA soon, still browsing.. 

Photographers will be after my Jakarta Shopping Spree.. 

My fiance told me... 

Times wait for no one.. 

Banar jua tu ah.. mun kan mensatisfy orang lain punya needs..anak si atu lah kan kawin jua... sibuk kraja lah.. peak time lah.. this and that...  tani pun inda kawin sampai bila bila.. Now just let them sync with you and not you sync with them... agree? 

And also one thing.. about times wait for no one.. if you take this discussion of date lightly... and if you decide to have your wedding elsewhere apart from your home would be so hard and stressful because searching for the perfect place  that can fit the perfect invitation is hard~ then your MUA might also have other clients to attend, your vendors, your caterings~ ALL ABOUT TIME! 

Revised Wedding Dates

I have a sudden rush of blood in my brain when...

Our wedding could probably be sometime in August or September..

*gasp*

not that i've made reservations on venue, make up or photographers but...

AUGUST?! SEPTEMBER?!

Reasons? So that the other half only sister can attend the wedding.. Since summer holiday in UK is usually from June-July-August and september is usually the times for farewells. July would be her graduation and we're planning on going there next year in time for the summer sales too. August would be really rushing. Early September? Oh well, i can't argue much on it and just probably agree on it to be fair and understanding.. give and take. but..

*sigh*

my cash flow pun not enough yet by that time.. which means...

I NEED TO SAVE MORE!

Then there's this indonesia shopping trip expenses that i've increased my budget to extra 30% because i know and assure i'll go crazily shopping for other stuff too! I heard the long day dresses is dirt cheap and also cardigans! dugaan jua banar eh!

*cries*

Anyhow! I'm too stress thinking about this dates and stuff.. the parents of both sides will be discussing this next month before our Indonesia Wedding Getaway so that I'm able to custom made my door gifts and other stuff that requires engraving dates on the items!

Festivity Mood

Apologize for the long absence on blogging about wedding and random thoughts, as you all aware that it’s the festive season and I bet everyone is also busy visiting family members, relatives all over, future in-laws and friends. I hope that readers out there are having fun celebrating, attending open houses and meeting old friends!

So we know..when it comes to Eid Mubarak, we can go financially broke early! For the simple reasons, paying your tailored attire, buying biscuits and cakes. Double or triple the groceries shopping for the Eid celebration and all. Honestly, I myself went over budget this month with cakes and all sorts of items purchased but I had a glimpse of sadness too that stopped the shopping half way through and thought about the people in need.  Never forget them too whilst having fun celebrating, if you stumble across an old wooden house, do drop by and ask, give a helping hand and share. It touched my heart and till now, I can’t stop thinking about it. Well, throughout the ramadhan period there’s a lot of helping aid given to the people in need shown in media and Alhamdulillah, our rakyat is kind enough to contribute and especially to His Majesty the Sultan for the kind and thoughtful gift for the people in need. Set aside, sentiasalah bersyukur kepada Allah S.W.T.

I have noting big or ideas to share at the moment because I’m having that working blues, festive mood. It’s good to know that the other half is having fun celebrating eid across the continent and great to know that he fully utilize the money I gave him for his hantaran shopping. Yes, I know it’s very early to buy but why not if you get the chance right? Some shops is still having sales and I purposely told him to go shopping for his stuff first because he knows what he wants and just spare the time next year for another shopping trip for my items. As of now, Shoes, Stationary sets and Smart shirts bought and done! Only few item left for his side and the most crucial and expensive bit is the watch! Need to save more!!  But I’m happy I’m making progress though it’s just little.

December is coming soon and one of my bridesmaids has already set the date when she’s getting married on December to prevent clashes with me. So far she’s picking the middle December so I might be going for early November. I’m not risking the 11.11.11 because I heard one of my relatives would be tying the knot too. The other half wouldn’t mind about dates and early November; the 1^st week would be the other half mother birthday, perfect! I’m planning on a 4^th November 2011 for solemization and bebedak lelaki, 5^th for bebedak perempuan, 6^th for reception and 12^th for majlis kesyukuran. We still need to discuss with the other half parents, need to do it soon because my bridesmaid told me that a lot of venues are fully booked! I hope the venue I’m aiming still has an opening on those dates.

I’ll try to kick in that wedding mood in soon! Hehe

Have a blissful raya dear readers. 

2011 Wedding Dates

Good day all brides to be..

It will be another week till be bid farewell to the most holy month; Ramadhan before stepping to the festive season; Syawal where working hours will be long and back to the normal days. Hopefully this year Ramadhan will be more meaningful than previous and even more meaning in later years InsyAllah. May Allah accept your every Doa and shower his countless blessings upon you and your entire family. *amin*

So it just struck me that calender days in 2011 will have quiet a number of BEST DATES to be getting married. I was browsing through my calender roughly thinking what date is best for the wedding on november next year. Then! If i were to have my wedding on 11 November 2011, it'll be like 11.11.11 the SIX one's. As nice it may sound i bet a lot of wedding will be happening on those dates!

Here's what i came across that coincidently falls on peak days:

• January Wedding, 1st January 2011 (1.11.11) - Saturday
• November Wedding, 20th November 2011 (20.11.2011) - Sunday
• November Wedding, 11th November 2011 (11.11.11) - Friday

I have two choices, either to have a wedding with a date that is easy to be remembered knowing that there will be a lot of clashes and weddings happening around OR just set any dates and no crowd clashes. 

I like the idea of ANY dates is alright. Would you even believe that me and the other half don't remember much on our anniversary? and YES, that ticker on the dashboard is really helpful after I had to find my old diary remembering on the day the other half proposed! We became a couple in a different way, he proposed and i gave him an answer after quiet sometime later~ yes, the wait is long.. so we didn't really get that exact date and just roughly estimate~ Upon anniversaries, that most of the time me and the other half forgets! either one of us will go "Ouh! January~ its the day we met again after so long! Happy Anniversary!" We were schoolmates back in primary, then years later we went into a situation where "hey, your are familiar? have we met?" kind of thing and starting keeping in touch with each other and one leads to another and this is what we end up..  

So what I'm trying to imply for myself here is that, It would be nice and lovely to have a beautiful date on the wedding to remember by but then again, after thinking hard... any dates would be alright... Gahhhh... I'm rambling here... panic on the thoughts of having clash weddings with friends or family members! 

I'm still feeling blur and not having that Festive Season Vibe yet? Is it me or there's anyone feeling this way too? =( I haven't even start baking when I did plan of making Kek Lapis and some biscuits. Purchase some brownies. Probably bake profiteroles or eclairs for 1st day hari raya, red velvet cupcakes for guest. BUT why oh why I don't have the vibe yet.. No vibe = No mood = No baking! 

I want begawan solo biscuits...